“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”

“Life is as beautiful as you want it to be. Don’t let negativity and bad habits stop you from living the life you imagine. Don’t let the spirit of bad friends, bad words or even bad coffee stop you from achieving your goal. Wake up every morning ready to slay. You are worthy of happiness, success, beauty, tranquility and serenity. Cause you, my love are at peace and your living in the present”

The fact that I am able to speak from my heart and personal experiences is truly a blessing. When I was a young girl, I wanted to be everyone but myself. There was really no self love. Little did I know that I was born on this Earth to create beautiful experiences with the people I held close to my heart.

These past two years, I have come to the beautiful realization that I was born on this Earth to create beautiful experiences within myself. Let me just say that writing was not predicted. So let’s give an applause to my inner self to push me out of my comfort zone. And with my birthday nearly three months ago, (Wow I am really 21) I’ve had the time to reflect on the life lessons I have learned over the past 21 years of my life. Clearly, the first lesson was getting comfortable in my own skin! Okay, now let’s really get into the next lessons that have shaped me:

Stop over-thinking

No matter how much I plan, it always seems that my plans go awry. And to be completely

honest, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but it would make me mad and miserable any time my

plans were led down another path I did not intend. One of the insights that I’ve gained from these experiences is that I just needed to let go and let time take its own course (in situations that allowed them). Take it slow and take notes … each part of your journey is important and you will want to use these moments as lessons to inform how you will continue to elevate. Controlling your mind not to over think will keep you in balance.

Appreciating your self in every stage of the process

Listen here Beautiful, You am far from being perfect. And guess what perfect is boring. Dare to be yourself. Use your imperfections as blueprints for your personal success. Now that you’re comfortable excepting your flaws. You go ahead and conquer the world. I have been so blessed to have created a space in my mind and heart where I can share my vulnerabilities, while also sharing my personal triumphs! Love yourself, every step of the way.

True friends stand the test of time

Stop being too quick to say that someone is your best friend. You know why, because friends know what you need when you’re down. They will tell you the truth and be honest with you. It will be hard but you will know that they care about you. Real friend’s are there for you when you’re feeling good or when you’re feeling down. I remember my best friend always believing that my dream of being a young entrepreneur would come true one day. And yes I’ am working on my bags. So shout out to my Girl (P.M) for having my back. Now that’s what I call friendship.

Being myself is the greatest gift

When I was a little girl, I would ask God, “Why couldn’t I be born someone else?” Since the age of eight, I’ve always struggled with depression and low self-esteem. I did not feel good enough and I wasn’t proud to be the size I was. I felt gross in the color of my skin and hated my hair texture. But there were two defining moments that changed my perspective: performing onstage (Got Talent) and starting my own small business (Creative Stitches by Kathy Kay). It was at these moments in my life that I realized the best person to be was truly myself. Don’t waste time and energy evolving into someone new or even something, learn first how to love and appreciate the person you look at in the mirror each day.

Stop living for others

My life revolved around what others thought and believed about me. Now that’s a bad thing. My mind was always clouded with what that person thought about me, but there was never enough space to think about what I thought and wanted for myself. So, once I started training my mind not to seek opinions from others. I realized that I was holding me back. I started to do more for myself. And now I can proudly say that I am at peace. You should start living for yourself!

Failures should inspire you to do better

Is not that easy to do than to say. But here it goes. Like I said before use your imperfections as blueprints for your personal success. By that I mean, things won’t always go the way you want. You are going to make mistakes not just in your personal life but also when you’re starting your business. Use it as a tool to keep moving forward. Do not give up. You will reach your goal.

Knowledge is the key

Do not settle for the things you already know. Challenge yourself by learning something new, something amazing, something fantastic, something mind-blowing … every day.

Experiment often

You will never know unless you try. The only limits that exist in our world of creativity are those we put on ourselves. Break yourself from those chains of doubt and create something of your wildest dreams.  STOP LIMITING YOURSELF!

Go for it

Fear and “Can’t” just don’t exist in my world. And they should not exist in yours to. There will be moments when you doubt you’re self and honestly that’s okay. We are human, but do not allow that to stop you from creating opportunities for yourself, do not let it stop you from achieving success.

Follow Your Heart

Simply if it does not feel good don’t do it. But if it feels good don’t hold back. Go for it.

Be grateful

We are not promised today or tomorrow, so be grateful for the opportunities, people, experiences and emotions.

Be kind

Kindness doesn’t seem to exist, so we have to make it known that it does. Spare some time to spread genuine kindness to those around you by sending thank you cards, sending thoughts texts and emails or shoot, call someone and tell them that you appreciate their vision and hard work.

Be understanding

Telling someone, “I understand,” (when you actually do) is a powerful sentiment. It’s all about being empathetic and genuine with that person. Allow that person to speak on what they are currently experiencing and what they want to accomplish. This is something that I get to do everyday.

Be REAL

Pretending to be someone else is absolutely exhausting. Take time to learn and understand who YOU are. Be real, be open and be genuine.

At last I want you to LOVE YOUR SELF.  Don’t ever stop being you. Don’t ever stop pushing forward. Love the skin you’re in. Love the hair you have. Love the eyes you have. Having a beautiful mind is all you need. Stop worrying about others. What they have. Start taking care of yourself. If you’re in a bad relationship. Get out of it. You don’t need to love someone who does not see the beauty you are. You do not need negative people or energy around you.  Just do you. Start living today. Start being you.

Now sweetheart go and conquer the world.